People!

People...the world is full of them. They walk around this vast land in search of...various different things (although most of them useless and futile). And as people live their live ignoring the possible signifacence of the person standing next to them or the person across the room. People do whatever they want because of the sorry excuse of "Hey it’s my life!" when people don’t even have the slightest clue that no matter who you are, no matter how lame, "cool", popular, stupid, retarded, rejected, demented, whatever the things you do, the choices you make, the things you say, the people you hang out with, the way you treat people, everything and anything. Can unknowingly affect anyone who comes to witness of your vain actoins that you believe are insignificant when they can be more significant that you will ever realize.

The world needs to wake up and realize that their lives are not their own, no matter how insignificant they think they are, one simple action can have life long lasting affects of some inocent spectator of your pitiful existence you call a life. A simple action can change a person’s life from "got everything going for ’em" to "a one way ticket to no where." And what’s even more sad is that, PEOPLE DON"T CARE. I mean what kind of heartless, cold, jerk do have to be when you don’t care about the potentially destructive affect you may have on another person’s life. Especially if that person is someone close to you.

And furthermore, the more "important" you are in society the bigger an effect you have on the general public. And the worst part sometimes their the worst of us all. And so a slight miscalculation of a decision can trasform someones life into a hell whole. If you ask me this whole entire world needs a HUGE wake up call, and quick before we’re all spiralling down a dark pit of destruction.

Thanks for reading

Sincerely,

~MyEssence~

Rules of Dinning Out

Rules of Dinning Out:

1. If you can afford to go out to eat... But you can't afford to tip... hey.. guess what.. you can't afford to go out to eat.

2. This is 2007 people. 10% is not acceptable anymore... standard tipping for GOOD service is between 18 and 20%...

3. Now, I understand that 10% is good enough for God... That's fine.. but this isn't church.. and you're not tithing.

4. PS- ordering a well done steak... which everyone in the south does... will constitute a longer ticket time. You will be okay. If you wanted fast food, you should have gone through a friggin drive-thru... (Squirrelly note: If you order a filet well done, I will hand you a slim jim and eat the 30 dollar steak myself. Thanks)

5. It's really not necessary to snap at me or wave your hand in the air like you're having a spasm or get up and follow me. I saw you, I acknowledged you, you saw me... hold on and sit the down. I am coming.

6. When I take the time to be courteous and introduce myself... please don't be a rude jerk and cut me off... manners, please.

7. I follow a strict rule that you should never reward bad service with a good tip... however, you should also never punish excellent service with a crappy tip because you're a cheap jerk.

8. Please don't take it out on me because you have had a bad day.. I'm here to make it better. relax.

9. When I deliver your food and ask if there is anything else.. you can tell me... I asked didn't I? Don't get all bent out of shape because I'm not psychic and cannot read your mind.. how the hell am I supposed to know you needed A1?

10. I know sometimes you can't help it, but do you really have to ask for something every single time I walk past the table? I mean really. Jessica Simpson is not even that high-maintenance.

11. Hi. Look around you. You are one of probably twenty people I am waiting on.. Did you happen to notice that? So if you have to wait for a minute.. Be patient.. I promise I will take care of you..

12. Treating a server like a piece of crap and the scum of the earth because we are serving you is the quickest way to get the worst service you ever thought possible.. We are people too and you are no better than me... I don't give a crap what you do.

13. Just think about it like this. Your tip left on the table is how I pay my bills. I am making $2.13 an hour.. So no. I don't get a paycheck. After taxes and claiming tips I'm lucky if I even see one. Remember that next time you decide to be cheap.

14. Last but certainly not least... Don't assume that my job is easier than yours and I am some dumb idiot who can't get a better job. The restaurant business is a fast paced environment with a high stress level. And you don't even see all the things we do behind the scene. So have some respect. I don't come to your office and treat you like crap for sitting on your ass all day do I?? No. I don't.

Repost if you are a server or know a server! or just repost to support servers!

Thanks for reading

Sincerely,

~MyEssnece~

My Future Husband

Main Characteristics

1. Must be a truly dedicated Christian. He must love God with all his heart, soul, and mind. God has to be number in his life; so that, I will not engulf too much of his life. That way I know the relationship will stay where it's supposed to be when its supposed to be. And as long as we both follow what God is telling us to do, our relationship will go exactly according to God's plan, which is the only plan I have any interest in following. That will make sure the relationship has balance.

2. Able to give Godly advice. Although I'm dedicated to God I do mess up...many many times, and I'm going to need a man who can and will correct me when he sees me straying from a Godly path, and then help keep me on the right path. Kind of like an accountability partner for life. He needs to be wise in the ways of God, and is able to resist the temptations of the world.

3. Is a virgin. If he is truly a Godly Christian he would be a virgin; he would understand how sacred his virginity really is. But he may not have always been that way; therefore, if he is not a virgin but has changed life and doesn't act that way anymore, then all would be completely forgiven and forgotten.

4. Has his own moral standards. I want him to have his own Biblical moral standards that he always follows because he believes them himself, and not just because of me. But because he believes them in his own heart he should also be able to completely defend his beliefs to himself, me, and anyone else. I don't want him to change just for me, just so that I will love him, but because he needs to and God calls him to better himself.

5. Is willing to defend his beliefs when necessary. Now I don't want someone who will start conflicts or disagreements or things like that, but I want someone who knows what he believes and when someone challenges that (if it is important enough) he can and will defend it with all his knowledge and wisdom.

6. Is able to agree on one church. If we don't already go to the same church we must agree on one for each other (and in the future, for our family) because its important for us to be learning about God and growing towards him together not separately. A couple that prays together stays together. (haha)

Personality/Character

1. Have respect for a woman's body. He can't be so rapped up in how hot he thinks I am that he pays no attention to anything else about me. First and foremost he needs to love me for who I am not what I look like.

2. A good listener. Someone who will be willing to sacrifice his own time to just sit there and listen to me if I've had a bad day and need to talk about it. Or if I'm feeling really mad or sad or whatever, and just need to vent to him. He is just willing to sit there for however long I need, to just talk with me or talk to me or just listen to me, whatever I need.

3. A kind person. He should be the kind of person who isn't judgmental towards people, he is friendly with everyone. He's easy to get along with, a personable person. Someone I can feel very comfortable around, and someone who's easy to talk to, easy to relate with.

4. A compassionate and thoughtful person. I'd like him to be the kind of person who will be observant of me and notice when I am sad or lonely or mad and do things for to cheer me up and make me feel better. I'd want him to be the kind of person who will do things for me just because; just because he loves me, just because he was thinking about me, etc.

5. An optimistic person and slow to anger. He should be the kind of person who likes to find the best in a situation, a person, or something. Quick to point out the positives, and to encourage and comfort, and be more supportive. Oh, and definitely he needs to be slow to anger, because (although I try not to) many times I am quick to get upset, or frustrated, and annoyed, and I need him to be able to handle that or calm down the situation. To be able to counteract the situation and help me realize I don't need to get worked up about something. Someone who will be patient with me, and understand my flaws and be willing to work with them.

6. Is a determined person. He should be someone who doesn't give up on things easily, that when he has a goal he goes after it unfailing. He doesn't let frivolous, minor things distract him from his goals. And he will do what's necessary to get what he wants and where he wants to go (as long as God approves of his goal and his methods).

7. Intelligent. I want someone who is smart and educated. Not someone who believes ignorance is bliss, but makes an effort to be informed about the things going on in our world today. And someone who is opinionated where it matters and can defend his opinions well. He doesn't have to be a genius and know everything about everything or anything, but at least someone who will make an effort to be educated in the important issues to a Christian, and is able to discern the good from the evils of the world.

8. Should be able to be spontaneous and fun. I want someone who will be willing to do stuff spontaneously, someone who is not tied down to the restrictions of a schedule can be crazy and fun like me .

9. Funny. Someone who knows me and knows how to make me laugh at any time. Who whenever I'm with him it doesn't matter what we're doing, I'll always be having fun and smiling as long as I'm with him.

10. Can be fun and serious. Someone who knows when to make jokes and when to be serious. He can tell when I'm in a laughing and joking me and can play off that, but can also see when I'm not in the mood to be funny and is sensitive to that.

Relational Aspects

1. Is accepted by my family and friends. If I'm going to spend the rest of my life with him then he should be able to get along with my family and friends (at least my Christian friends). Because if everyone I know disapproves of him and doesn't like him then that's probably a sign that he's not the right guy for me.

2. Someone who really cares about me. Someone who will care enough about me to get to know me and be able to understand me like no one else can. If I'm emotional or feeling something that most people wouldn't understand, but he understands exactly what I'm feeling and is able to help me and make me feel better. Someone who knows exactly what to do to cheer me up, who can predict what I'm going to need before I say it. Someone who knows me better than I know myself sometimes, and is sensitive to my feelings.

3. I am the most important thing in his life (besides God). He should always put me second (after God) and not let his work or anything else come before me. He love every part of me (even the imperfect parts) because it's the way God made me, and God made us for each other. That he won't be disappointed with me if parts of me aren't as good as he hoped they would.

4. Someone who wants me more than anyone else. I want a man who will love me so much that he doesn't care about any other woman in the world. Even if he could have someone who is prettier than me, smarter than me, nicer than me, or whatever he wouldn't. Because to him I'm the best there is, and he loves me just the way I am.

5. Knows a relationship is based on trust. He knows that we have to be able to tell each other the truth no matter what it is. That if he has done something wrong or bad then he can tell me. That he trusts me that I will be understanding and judge the situation appropriately and wont get mad at him unnecessarily.

6. Is protective of me. I want someone who is a little possessive of me; if he sees someone hitting on me or someone being inappropriate with me he will protect me and my honor (if that's not too corny). And he would never let anything or anyone hurt me.

7. Willing to share the work and effort. Someone who doesn't think that I should be the one doing all the work and someone who doesn't take on all the work himself. Because a relationship is made by give and take, and we both need to be willing to do both. And this can apply to any area of the relationship.

8. Is supportive of my goals. I want someone who knows what I want to do and be and is supportive of me. Someone who will encourage me to be my best and do my best and reach everything that I ever wanted and to do it all for God.

9. Is able to hold a conversation. He can talk to me and with me well. When I ask him things its not like pulling teeth or harder then brain surgery for him to respond to me. And he is actually intriguing and engaging. We have a connection where we can talk for hours and not get tired of each others voices. He has interesting conversation and knows how to talk to me best.

10. Be able to handle my Quirky personality. I'm a very spontaneous, crazy at times, random, and maybe even slightly strange person. And I want someone who knows all these things and is ok with them and have with me and the things I like to do.

11. Is willing to do things with me and for me. Even though he may not particularly want to or like to he's willing to do things with me just because he knows I want him to or I want him to be there with me. And if I need him to do something for me he's ok with that because he loves me.

12. Is attractive. I'm not saying you have to be an Orlando Bloom, or a Brad Pitt, or a Justin Timberlake, but I think its reasonable for me to be attracted to him I have a wide variety of the kind of people I'm attracted (looks-wise) so he probably will have a good chance. But in the overall package, looks is truly the last thing I consider because it is the least important in reality.

Thanks for reading

Sincerely,

~MyEssence~

Relationship are soo complited! =/

Ugh! I am like a hopeless romantic. I'm always falling for someone; its a rare occasion when I dont have a crush on someone. But I have like many kinds of crushes. For example, I have a crush on a guy because I just kinda of like him because he's cute and nice (meaning I've actually met him), there's the kind where I actually like a guy because he's cute and I like his personality and stuff (but those are the kind that change all the time), and there are two kinds that are less frivilous, I guess you could say, where I meet a guy and I think that he is really nice and then I look at his future possibilities and I see some qualities I look for (see "My Future Husband" blog) and I start really liking him, but with those kinds of crushes I find after a while some characteristic that makes a relationship impossible. But then there are those guys that I look at over and over and I think I've considered it enough to the point where I can seriously consider him for future possibilities (and all this can happen before I've even told the guy I like him at all). In these cases, I have only found about 3 guys that I have ever truly considered (and recently I've almost completely disqualified my 3 option) but then something always seems to be wrong with them or the situation that wouldnt allow it to work (at least not that I can see now). And this is just soo frustrating, because I'm always looking for that right guy (and yes I know, I'm only 16 I dont need to be thinking about all these things, but I do, I just cant help myself) and the guys always end up disappointing me. I just wish I could have some idea of who I'm gonna marry. Like if I've met him yet, is he going to be white/black? tall/short? anything/something! But thats not how God works, which is just annoying because that just leaves me to hopelessly search for the right guy, being disappointed countless times. When will the carade end??

Thanks for reading

Sincerely,

~MyEssence~

Life's Rough...And?

Every year, every month, every week, every day, every hour, minute, even second people all over the world are hurting. Someone's hurting about one thing another is hurting about something different. But the fact is, we all have problems, we all have pain, we all go through countless adversities thoughout our lives. This world is just filled with people with issues, and these issues range from countless varieties. And we walk by these people everyday. At school, on the street, at church, at home, everywhere. But you cant always tell the people that have issues. Sometimes the people with the worst problems have the most pleasant happy exterior. They are the people with the amazing jobs, the people with tons of friends, the people with beauty, power, money, the people who look the least likely to have any issues. But the truth is we dont know. Not untill we find out for ourselves. But as I've already said, the world is full of people with pain, and we cant know everyone.
So what do we do? We go everyday and pass countless people with pain and struggles that we dont have the slightest clue about. We cant just sit down with every person and ask them about their problems. Well I'll tell you what you can do. You can just take advantage of every opportunity you do have to reach out to the people you already know. Pretty much everyone has friends right? And we normally talk to our friends on a regular basis right? Well when you talk to your friends listen to what they say, but I mean really listen. You may hear things you normally miss. Sometimes your friends may mention a problem they are facing, or an issue their going through, but you may not hear that or may just not want to deal with their problems. Maybe you have your own problems, or you just dont want to have to get involved with their issues. But you never know that issue really goes. Sometimes when a person is going through some really hard times all they need is someone to care and someone to listen to them. Just doing that can sometimes make all the difference.
People who can look past their own adversities, and problems they may be facing themselves, and are able to just set that aside to reach out to someone else in desparate need of a friend is an extremely remarkable person. Sometimes people are just so absorbed in their own issues that they forget to care about other's problmes. But the people who can be carrying the world on their shoulders but turn around to care about someone else and seek to comfort and aid them in their situation, that is the mark of a true hero. If there were more people like that in this world, people who cared about others more than themselves, this world would be a much much better place.
So the next time you are talking to someone, and you can tell that they are going through some problems; dont just ignore it and act like you didnt hear that. Put aside your own problems for a few minutes and take some time to reach out to someone else who may be in pain as well.
How do you change the world? One person at a time....

Thanks for reading =)

Sincerely,

~MyEssence~

Boys...UGH!

Ok, the only reason I'm writting this is because i know im not the only girl who feels this way. And who knows maybe there are some guys who feel this way too.

Well, as for me, i know that i am a hopeless romantic. Im always getting crushes on guys. Most of them are never serious enough for me to actually do anything about it, but still. But part of being little crushes is they are usually mumerous. And they end for one reason or another. And it is just soo frustrating sometimes. Like after you like someone, and then it ends your like, "What on earth did i see in him?" And sometimes it just gets soo frustrating.

And so as a result, sometimes we think, "You know forget boys im just going to be perfectly content with being single. Im not going to crush on any guys. Im not gonna think about them all the time, its just going to be me, my girls, and God." But then..dun dun dun duuuuh..here comes a boy who is so cute or nice or funny or whatever you like about him. And against your inistincts you start liking him. And what would make it worse is if he acted like he likes you too. (Notice i sed "acted" which implies not neccesarily he does) And then you spend the next few days, weeks, months, however long it is, just thinking about him, day-dreaming and what-not. But then BAMS! something happens and now all of a sudden, you dont like him anymore. Maybe he did something or you did something, and your mad at him or your embarrassed or something like that, and now, lskjdflas, the crush is no more. And your left feeling disapointed and frustrated at the fact that you fell for antother guy, and just like all the rest, it went sour like 20 warheads shoved in your mouth at once. Yah i know. And know you think to yourself, "UGH! Why the heck did i do that, i knew this was going to happen"

And then you re-dedicate that your going to be content with being single and what-not. But in the back of your head your thinking, "Yeah right" And then you just go on with your life waiting for you to do it all over again.

Now i know some of you may have a little different scenario or feel differently. But still if some of you read this and are just thinking, "Mmmmh, i know thats right" "Amen sister" "You said it" "I KNOW!" just feel free to comment and say that. Cause i'll feel a little better about posting this if i know im not the only one who goes through this kinda stuff. lol

Thanks for reading

Sincerely,

~MyEssence~

This is MyEssence...Whats yours??

MyEssence...A year ago or so i created this word for myself, mainly as a name for my myspace and facebook and other stuff like that. But as time has passed i've started to realize that it represents alot more than just that. MyEssence represents a fundamental principle that everyone should apply to their own lives.

MyEssence means exactly what it says, My-Essence, its the essence of you, of who you are, its whatever you want it to be. But its you. Not MTV or BET or VH1 or the style channel or magazines or anything else like that. Just you. And too many times we try to define ourselves by the things we watch, the clothes we wear, the music we listen to, things we say, or the way we act so that people will think we're "cool." But thats the worst thing we can possibly do. Because everyone in the world is special, and has something about them that makes them amazing. And when we choose to be someone else just to impress or please others, we're covering up the best part of ourselves, the part that everyone needs to see.

It shouldnt be our goal to be like the "cool" people, to act like they do, talk like they do, dress like they do, even think like they do. Our goal should be to be ourselves, to show the world how we really are and let them know that even though we may different then them, we're still pretty freaking awesome. Because if everyone tried to conform to be the same in order to be "cool," then the world would be a pretty boring place. Thats why God gave us our individuality, He gave everyone their own unique qualities. But the media tries to make us think that our uniqueness is not unique at all, its uncool, lame, retarded, old, stupid; they make us feel bad about ourrself so we'll do whatever we can to be more like them. And most of the time their trying to sell you something that you honestly dont need. But the problem is we buy it, everything. We believe them when they tell us we need to change to be "cool," we have to be more like them. So we throw away our perfectly amazing personalities and buy everything they sell us in the desperate hope to be "cool," to be liked, loved, accepted, noticed, wanted. But we really need to know that we dont need to do that. That we are perfectly fine the way we are, and that God did nto make us retarded or stupid, we are fearfully and wonderfully made. And we can be loved, noticed, wanted, accepted just the way we are. And anyone that tells us otherwise is not someone we should want to be noticed by anyways. In fact, we should feel sorry for those who feel like they have to be these embodiment of all that is "cool" in order to be loved, because they are obviously very insecure about themselves that they feel that just being themselves isnt enough. Well im here to tell you, IT IS ENOUGH! And especially with this whole cool thing, thats just a word that they created to real people in to become their little robots. Cool can be anything. Everyone is cool in their own way. No one is the same but everyone can still be cool inspite of that. And that is the best part.

So next time you find yourself being tempted to conform to someone else or something else that is supposedly "cool" Just stop and say to yourself. "Forget that! I'm already cool, and if you dont think so, then i dont care. THIS IS MYESSENCE, GO GET YOUR OWN!!!"

P.S.

If you really liked this blog, feel free to tell people about it, because i know there are alot of people who could benefit from this msg.

Thanks for reading

Sincerely,

~MyEssence~